Let’s start with a big one:
Who am I, really?
Like, deep down—beneath the resume, the Instagram posts, the anxious thoughts at 1 a.m., and the perfectly timed “I’m fine.”
It’s a question we all wrestle with, even if we don’t say it out loud. Especially in your twenties, when your life is basically one big identity crisis with bills.
You graduate. You move. You change jobs. You lose friends, make new ones, start over, mess up. And somewhere in the swirl of all that, you start wondering:
Am I what I do?
Am I how I look?
Am I what they said about me?
Am I even doing this right?
N0, you’re not doing it “wrong.” You’re just human. And you’re asking the kind of question that makes Heaven lean in.
Now, let’s talk Colossians 3:3:
“For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.”
At first glance, this verse sounds… dramatic. You died? Okay, Paul. But what he’s really saying is this: the old you—the version of you defined by what the world says—is gone. That identity you’ve been chasing, the one that depends on your performance, your popularity, your productivity? It died when you said yes to Jesus.
Your real life is now wrapped up in Christ. Hidden in Him. Which means you don’t have to invent yourself, brand yourself, or fix yourself to be worthy. You already are. Because your identity isn’t a puzzle to solve—it’s a truth to receive. But let’s be real: even if we know that, it’s hard to live like that.
It’s hard not to scroll through everyone else’s highlight reels and wonder if you’re falling behind. It’s hard not to tie your worth to your job title, your GPA, or how put-together you look at small group. It’s hard not to let past mistakes define you—or future dreams pressure you.
That’s why I love the word hidden in this verse. Hidden doesn’t mean lost. It means protected, covered, safe. It means that even when I feel like a hot mess on a hamster wheel, God still sees the real me—the one He made, the one He redeemed, the one He’s patiently shaping day by day.
The world says, “Find yourself.”
Jesus says, “You’re already found.”
So, if you’re in the thick of trying to figure out who you are—maybe freshly out of college, mid-career shift, post-breakup, or just emotionally done—here’s what I want you to know:
1. You are not your timeline.
You’re not behind. You’re not late. God actually has a perfectly designed path for you, and it definitely is not the wrong one.
2. You are not your productivity.
Rest is holy. And your worth doesn’t rise and fall with your to-do list.
3. You are not what they think.
God’s opinion of you is the only one that’s unchanging—and He calls you chosen, loved, forgiven, whole. Some people’s opinion of you will change because of what they are going through in their life—doesn’t make sense does it?
4. You are hidden in Christ.
Which means you’re already enough. You don’t have to hustle for your identity. You just have to stay close to the One who gave it to you.
Let that sink in. You’re not here to create a version of yourself that the world will clap for. You’re here to become who you already are in Christ. And that might not always look glamorous or impressive—but it will be good, really good. And there will be an immense amount of peace around it.
So when the question creeps back in—“Who am I, really?”—you can answer it with bold, quiet confidence:
I’m His. That’s who I am.
Hanna Rellar 